After The Event...

Over the last year, I’ve been to so many LGBT+ rights events that I’ve almost lost track. Pride Events, Weekenders, Protests, Huge Corporate Events, Protests, Award Ceremonies and even as a guest speaker at a few things. It’s always an amazing atmosphere. Everyone together in one place, with a common goal, feeding off one another’s passion to build a better world for LGBT+ people.


I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t fun but, in truth, it can be tough sometimes. These events don’t just happen, they take planning (sometimes months of it) and the dedicated hard work of some truly inspirational people. To bring the right people together in a space where they can really collaborate is no easy task.



Anyone who has been to one of these events will tell you, there is such a buzz leading up to and on the day. Planning what the next move is, where the push for progress will be and come from and working out how we are going to make real changes. It’s the next day that I’m struggling with…


Let’s face it, there is always a bit of a “Pride Come Down.” Back to the dull reality of a life without rainbow flags at every turn, facing the harsh reality of the problems we’re all still left dealing with when the parades have been and gone. It can feel… well… a bit naff…



With any luck though, you’ll have met a few people, made a few contacts or found that new support group you were looking for. My issue at the moment however is, whilst we have all this strength together on the day, it all fades away after the event. For some weird reason we all head back to our own little silos, back into our bubbles and away from that spirit of comradery we had but a few days before. This leads to a few problems…


First, it does nothing for one’s sense of community. Communities are important whatever walk of life you are in. The feeling of knowing there is a group of likeminded, similarly experienced or even just sympathetic people is comforting. We feel like we are a part of something, which can help with a host of anxiety and other MH issues. If we all leave these events, put the rainbow flags back in the cupboard and lose contact with each other, that sense of community fades very quickly.


The next issue goes some way to addressing the first one though. Some people head off back to their own projects. When people use the motivation of these events to power their own projects, it’s a hugely positive outcome. The issue comes when we do this in isolation. I have learned through developing T & Coffee that there is huge overlap in the work so many community groups are doing. The repetition of effort not only means we aren’t being efficient, it actually causes issues of dilution in the landscape. This can lead to local or national services almost competing with one another for resource, members or even marketing space. This is counterproductive…


Part of the remit when we set up T & Coffee was to speak with groups who work nationally but also in the locations where we are hosting events. Not just because we don’t want to tread on any toes but, we want to make sure we are working together. This project was never about making a name for ourselves, it is entirely about providing a unique support service that compliments the incredible work already happening both locally and nationally.



We’ve met some amazing organisations. Incredibly passionate and dedicated people, with brilliant ideas and amazing insight. These organisations need to be supported by the community, not superseded by new projects and repeated efforts. As such, we have set out to signpost our members to some of these irreplaceable resources.


Helping each other the spread the word about what is already out there, keeps these projects alive. Sharing the amazing work, fantastic ideas and always present passion, keeps these projects growing. Working together as a community makes all of us bigger and stronger.


So, please check out our resources page. Let us know if you would like your project to be featured on our site and shared to the community. Use the local and national resources that are already out there. We are always happy to help direct you to what you are trying to find. Most of all though, remember progress doesn't have to stop after the event.


We can all keep working together to Support You, To Be You!

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